Give//Take

No relationship is successful without compromise The above concept has been overstated by society But to what extent do we agree to it?

Is compromise as a concept healthy? Or does it restrain the self along with being a lubricant for the relation?

Is it true, that no relationship is healthy without compromise? Or is a relationship that demands compromise, not healthy?

Is it customary to lose a part of us, to gain the other? Or the fact that we have to lose ourselves isn’t appropriate?

Sometimes, do we surrender ourselves to our responsibilities and others’ happiness? Chase the pursuit of selflessness and feel dented? Does our focus completely shift from ‘us’, to ‘them’?

Do we all need to learn to live for ourselves as well? Without the guilt? Give them all our heart and all we want, but also give ourselves a share of this altruistic nature?

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Should we learn to stop the other person when they give too much?

Because how many times have we sought help, demanded comfort and prioritized ourselves regardless of the other’s disposition? Why is it that our dad presents to us a plethora of worldly pleasures, and avails none for himself? Why is it that our mom suddenly doesn’t feel hungry when there’s just a little food left at home? Why does our family give our needs more priority than theirs?  Why is it that a friend patiently hears us out, with a heavy heart of their own?

And we avail all of that, without their complaints, without a hint of chaos at their end.  Do we fail to discern this reality? Sometimes, do we seek too much?

So, Do we need to explain ourselves both- not to give more and take more in any relation? Are we yet to acknowledge the bond of interdependence, to instill contentment for all we did and not the feeling of disappointment for all we gave up?

Is this adjustment of Give//Take really an entrapment of the self? Or is it our of way setting each other free from the shackles of moral imperatives?

. Do we sometimes deceive ourselves in this Give//Take, which is so fundamental for the relation? Or is this the beauty of every relation- to complement each other?